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Dating guidelines for nerds

Therefore let me reveal my issue: we likes me personally some timid, nerdy dudes, nonetheless they won’t ever start a discussion beside me. We have not a problem using the effort (no fear, no tact, with no pity, actually), but if I attempt to speak to them We have a tendency to get fear signals right back: stuttering, twitching, averted eyes, etc.

I am perhaps maybe not ugly (in line with the good individuals within the photo that is recent with good hygiene, gown feeling, and basic grooming practices. I am a bit peaceful in that I do not invest on a regular basis giggling and speaking like the majority of girls my age (22), but I am able to definitely hold my very own in a sensible discussion. We have no self-esteem problems or daddy problems or “issues” of any sort, actually (except with individuals whom utilize the non-word “anyways, ” but that is why i am a doper, right? ).

I am told that i am too intimidating (i will be dull) and that dudes will immediately assume that We’m taken because i am perhaps maybe perhaps not unsightly, but i am perhaps perhaps not flirting either (WTF? ).

I am getting fed up with holding the discussion for 2 before the nerdy man understands that I am perhaps maybe not planning to sprout an additional head and relaxes sufficient for me personally to make the journey to understand him.

Will there be some shorthand, some alert or code expression him know I’m not that scary, really that I can give or say to let?

*relationship advice. You may even participate in the second-favorite passtime, that will be nitpicking my sentence structure and spelling, should you feel the need. None of one’s first-favorite material in right here, however. This really is household thread.: )

You hinted towards the conclusion it sounds like you’re doing fine that you do eventually get the nerdy guys to relax, so. It simply takes longer with some individuals. I am a Nerdy Guy myself, and I also should get my spouse to tell you how–skittish–I is at first. It cannot be any benefit compared to dudes you are dealing with.

What type of signals would you send? Any kind of “you” language is incredibly effective. “Name” language–that is, mentioning the individual’s name–is better yet.

You hinted towards the finish which you do ultimately have the nerdy dudes to flake out, therefore it feels like you are doing fine. It simply takes longer with some individuals. I’m a Nerdy Guy myself, and I also should get my partner to tell you how–skittish–I is at very first. It can not be any benefit compared to dudes you are speaing frankly about.

*sigh* i understand, but often wef only I really could slip a Xanax to their hill dew, ya understand?

What sort of signals can you send? Any kind of “you” language is incredibly effective. “Name” language–that is, mentioning the individual’s name–is better still.

That is helpful advice. We attempt to send “not stuck-up” (because often people confuse “quiet” for “snobby”), “friendly, ” and “not threatening. ” We smile (but I do not giggle), We make attention contact, and I also do not interrupt them as they are making an effort to get yourself a phrase out (this is certainly difficult).

Wait, you tagged username love the quiet(ish) nerd kind? And also you’re at OSU? If We just possessed vehicle…

Feh, whom’m We joking? We’d clam up too. Girls are frightening.

Will there be some shorthand, some alert or code expression that I’m able to provide or say to allow him understand i am maybe not that frightening, really? To start with, i simply took a glance at your photo, and my your ranking from the Attract-O-Meter is;

( perhaps maybe Not my typical kind, but I’d have time that is hard my eyeball-tracking nevertheless. )

In terms of advice (and I am in your target demographic): The best thing you can do to make a geek feel comfortable is get him to talk about his favorite subject/intellectual infatuation/doctorial thesis as you may have already inferred. As soon as you get him started, sufficient reason for simply the barest of consistent prodding and display/simulacrum of great interest he will drop the shyness that is whole and tell you exactly about The Hitchhiker’s Guide to your Galaxy/linguistic interrelations associated with the Romance languages/the life cycle of intestinal worms. When he’s run their program and it is convinced that you’re genuinely!, amazingly!, outstandingly! Enthusiastic about him, he then’ll begin asking regarding the passions. (then he’s probably just a self-absorbed bastard, and you don’t want that if he doesn’t. You want to work through the barricade that is initial maybe perhaps perhaps not to the dungeon. )

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